Broken Hearted
Getting over a broken heart
I think it is safe to say that there is not a single soul on this planet that has not experienced heartbreak in their lives one time or another.
Heartbreak can be devastating and the way we choose to deal with it can change our lives forever " for better or worst" Holding onto grudges, and making vows for your mission in life to get back at those who hurt you, is definitely the worst thing you can do.
Consuming your thoughts with anger and spending all your free
time thinking of
ways to pay someone back for falling out of love and hurting you can be
very
exhausting. "life is short" Why put yourself through it?
When our relationships end dealing with rejection is not easy, it's actually the hardest part of the breakup! aside from the hurt, "after all why shouldn't you feel hurt" this person promised to love you forever now they are leaving you.
Don't beat yourself up trying to understand why he/she wants
to end the
relationship, sometimes people just change or grow apart, if there's
one thing in life that I have learned, is that nothing last forever.
FOREVER only means is long
as it's going to last, now I'm not saying that some relationships won't
last forever, but the era of the golden wedding anniversaries I'm sure
is to be
something from the past.
Why do we make such promises? How can we be sure that our feelings won't change over time? That little 4 lettered word "LOVE" is so powerful it should have it's own caution sign.
I really don't think that we should make promises to love forever! When making such a promise think of whats ahead, what if you can't keep this promise? Has anyone ever sat down and thought of how the other person is going to feel, when the promise of love forever is broken.
Maybe if we didn't put so much pressure on the forever commitment there would be less breakups. After all shouldn't we stay in relationships because we want to and are happy to be there, and not because of promises to love forever have been made even though were unhappy.
So the next time you tell someone that you're going to love them forever.Think of how their going to feel when you decide to take that love away, not everyone deals with heartbreak easily some have been known to commit suicide over the loss of love. The FOREVER word is just has powerful as the LOVE word, please use it wisely.
I personally believe that actions speak louder than words! It's not what I say it's what I do, It's how I treat you that you will know if I love you or not. If I treat you badly does this mean I love you? Just because I told you so! Should you believe me? Love is when I treat you with respect, and listen when you speak and give you a shoulder when you weep.
When we learn the difference between actions and words! That is when our hearts will stop aching for a love that left us there feeling hurt, Where there is true love there is no pain of a broken heart.
How do I get over a broken heart? First you must examine the situation of the relationship that left you to feel heartbroken.
Was your partner cheating on you?
Did you grow apart from each other?
Was there a lack of respect?
We could go on forever asking ourselves questions, as to what might have went wrong, but what it all boils down to it's over and asking yourself repeatedly, what happened? could I have done something to prevent this from happening? is there something wrong with me? maybe I'm not attractive enough? maybe I don't make enough money? Like I said the list goes on and on.
You cannot prevent someone from falling out of love with you, so don't torture yourself, all you can do now is pick up the pieces of your life and move on. Start by doing something you've never done before find yourself learn to like who you are, take up a new hobbies, join a fitness club, go out with some of your old friends that you haven't seen in a long time.
Try not to dwell on the good times you had with your Ex, this seems to be the one bad thing that we all do, when you think about the lost love, think about the ending not the beginning! don't listen to sad songs try to keep yourself up and cheerful, and if none of this helps seek counseling don't let yourself go into a depression over something that wasn't worth it or meant to be. And time does heal all wounds, loss of a love can only make you stronger and better for the real true love of your life that awaits you.
